Lesson #1   slave positions 


Lesson #2  slave rules



COMING SOON...


Lesson #3   gender overview


Lesson #4   Safety


 and more... keep checking back to see updates!                                   

Every Domme has Her own set of rules. These are the rules that I enforce at My Sanctuary. In general, subs should always show respect. Make sure you understand The Domme's initial process for setting up a session. If She has a website, READ the entire site PRIOR to contacting Her. More than likely, any questions you have will be answered by reading Her website. Value Her time, and DO NOT bombard Her with endless emails or phone calls before your first session! If She is a True Pro Domme, you are one of many. If She were to chat back and forth with EVERY hopeful sub, that is all She would have time to do!!


Communication is VERY important, and I find that most Pro Dommes (True Pro Dommes) know what information They need and how to obtain that from you in order for your time together to be enjoyable. I personally have all new subs fill out My application, and then I have a brief consultation prior to the start of O/our first session. Again, All Pro Dommes are not the same. If you want to make a good first impression (and believe Me, you do!), follow Her individual instructions. These are Mine...

*  When you are ready to schedule your first session, you should have already reviewed My site in its entirety. Fill out and submit My submission application, and then wait for My response, usually within 48 hours. 


*  Once I have reviewed and accepted your application, a session date and time will be scheduled.


*  Upon your confirmation, I will send  your orders.


For first time sessions ONLY... Upon entering My Sanctuary, you will be greeted by Me (or one of My slave girls) and shown to My parlor where you will be given a list of BDSM activities. you will rate each activity, informing Me of your level of interest in each of them. Then W/we will have a brief consultation, going over the activities, and I will answer any questions you might have. W/we will then establish a safety word.  


*  Once you are an established submissive, upon entering My Sanctuary, you will be greeted by Me (or one of My slave girls). you will get naked, place your belongings in the metal box, and then proceed through the curtain to My Throne. Then you will get into the submit position and wait patiently for Me to enter the room.


*  Upon My entrance, O/our session will officially begin. 


*  During session, you are expected to obey Me and follow all of My instructions. Everything from bottled water to bathroom breaks are considered a privilege. you may ask Me for anything, and I may or may not grant you permission. 


*  you will not only respect Me, but you will show respect to My slave girls and anyone else I invite to join U/us. NEVER touch Me or anyone else, unless you have been specifically instructed to do so.   


*  You are not to speak unless spoken to (you may request to speak, if you have a question <Maitresse, please may i have permission to speak?>)


*  Once the session has ended, you will be given permission to shower (but not required to do so) and then you will get dressed. YOU ARE NOT TO LEAVE THE SANCTUARY until I personally give you permission. 


*  When you are ready to set up another session, you may do so by email, text or phone. I will give you My contact number at the end of your first session.(It is very important that you find out how your Domme prefers to communicate with her submissives. Some do not use text messaging, and others require that you text.)


*  Some final important notes... Find out how The Domme would like to be addressed. you can call Me Maitresse or Mistress. Calling Her anything other than what She instructs is considered rude. She will call you whatever she wants! 


*  If at anytime during your session, you are not sure what you should be doing or where you should be waiting, assume Position #4 (stand), and wait for further instructions. Or ask for permission to speak.


*  ALWAYS count your spankings, but ONLY count out loud when instructed to do so. 

Lesson #1  slave positions 

Lesson #2:     slave rules

If at any time you come across a word or phrase that you are not familiar with, you can reference My glossary here: A-J  & K-Z.

#2 Inspect

#4 Stand

​​​Maitresse Synthia

        

Welcome to ...

               

             BDSM 101 

#3 Attend

This is an introduction to Bondage, Discipline, Sadomasochism (BDSM). What you will learn here is just the "tip of the iceberg". I CANNOT EMPHASIZE ENOUGH the IMPORTANCE of learning as much as possible from as many resources as possible before getting involved in the lifestyle. I truly believe that we never stop learning, as long as we have an open mind. I recommend reading books, magazines and blogs, visiting a Professional Dominatrix, or a club or an event. Visiting websites and meeting other people who are in the lifestyle are also helpful. There are thousands of resources out there; you just have to find what works best for you!  Scroll down to see My personal favorites! 

#5 Follow

#1 Submit

​D i s c r e t i o n   i s   M y   P r o f e s s i o n

I personally have five slave positions that I require My slaves to learn. They are:


                                                       1.     Submit

                                              2.     Inspect  

                                              3.     Attend 

                                              4.     Stand

                                              5.     Follow


It should be noted that there are other positions, but I only use the five listed above.


My slaves are required to disrobe when they enter My Sanctuary, so they present themselves to Me naked, freshly showered and completely shaved.  Once they have disrobed, they enter and assume Position #1, submit, while they await My entrance. Upon entering, I make sure that they are correctly positioned. Then I call out "Inspection," and My slaves move into Position #2. I then take My flashlight and check to make sure they are clean and completely shaved. On the rare occasion that I am not satisfied with their grooming, I will reprimand them and then groom them Myself so they know how to present themselves to Me properly, in the future.   See the photos below to view each position. 

The following books were all used as a reference for this page and for My glossary. I highly recommend checking them out! 


SM 101  ​Wiseman, J. (1998)  San Francisco, CA: Greenery Press.


The Mistress Manual  Mistress Lorelei. (2000)  San Francisco, CA: Greenery Press.


Screw The Roses, Send Me The Thorns  Miller, P. and Devon, M. (2004).Fairfield, CT: Mystic Rose Books. 




Some websites I like are:


Ambrosio's BDSM Site